Former video vixen turned bestselling author Karrine Steffans is at it again with a new tome, 'The Vixen Manual' (Grand Central Publishing, $25.99), which hit stores July 13.

This time around, the 30-year-old headline-grabbing author of 'Confessions of a Video Vixen' and 'The Vixen Diaries' has abandoned her tell-all ways.

"'The Vixen Manual' is completely different because the first two books were a set of memoirs and what I wanted to do with the memoirs was to get all of me out and done so there would be nothing new that anyone could come up with. I wanted to move forward from the life I had. I released those and let the skeletons out of the closet so that I could be lighter and freer in my walk. I went back to a book that I actually started in 2004 before I ever wrote 'Confessions' or 'Diaries. As I was writing it in 2004 and early 2005, that's when Harper Collins came to me and asked me to write 'Confessions of a Video Vixen.' I stopped writing this book to write 'Confessions.' I kept adding to it over the years and I would find myself going back and rereading and fixing things because I kept learning things about relationships and whatnot," she said.

Steffans, who is now married to 'Family Matters' star Darius McCrary, said that she realized that she needed to publish this book after dialoguing with friends about its subject matter and realizing there was a breakdown between the old-school and new-school approaches to sexuality.

"I would talk to my girlfriends and older women in their 50's and 60's and older married couples," she explained. "I would just talk to as many people as possible about relationships and how differently we view them. I learned a lot, mostly from my elders. I learned that there is a need to bring the old school and the new school together. The old school by itself may not work in today's time, but what we're doing now in my generation at least, also isn't working. I figured that if we brought the two together that between that we would have a new revolution and a new revelation about sex and sexuality, relationships and even single women would have a different outlook on life if I brought the two together. In the last four years, I compiled all of these conversations into 50 chapters and that's what the manual became."

Positioning herself as a modern day Dr. Ruth or Sue Johanson, Steffans hopes her brand of sex talk and tips helps both women and men.

"My big hope for the manual is that it opens up the door for more conversations. The book by itself is not going to help you do anything. You can read it, put it down and learn nothing. I'm hoping that it makes women especially say, 'That's a good idea. Let me talk about it with my girlfriends' or 'that's an interesting tip; let's see if my husband and I agree with that.' 'The Vixen Manual' is for single, married, old, young, but it's for women who want to be in a committed relationship and ultimately some sort of marriage if that's where you're going. It's not for the single girl who wants to go out and just be reckless; that's not what this is for. This is for the mature woman who wants to learn more about her and explore more with her mate and build a stronger relationship. It was designed that way and hopefully that's what it does," she enlightened.

Once considered one of entertainment's most notorious sex kittens, Steffans declares she's evolved over the years and admits that if you think 'The Vixen Manual' is about name-dropping and celebrity rendezvous, this isn't the book for you.

Steffans believes there are lots of misconceptions about her and while her previous books helped fuel those notions, this time around she's doing things differently.

"I probably have the Internet to thank for this, but Karrine is nothing like what people portray me to be. People guess a lot about what they think my life is like. I see the misconception. I have fun with people. I love to make people spin themselves into a frenzy trying to figure out what I'm doing. I sit at home on my computer and I come up with ways through my writing and my videos to make the audience entertain themselves and spin. The image that I've portrayed thus far has been nothing more than commerce. It's entertainment. I'm here to entertain you and that's what I've done. At 30-years-old and the stage of life that I'm in now, I don't have to put on anymore. Now I realize I'm done putting on and that's it. I made you do these things, I led you on, I acted crazy on purpose just to get you to go nuts and it's all part of commerce. It sells the image, it sells the book and everyone was in on it including the publicist, the book company. Its business and it's like a reality show on paper. The biggest misconception is that Karrine Stefans, the public person, is the same as the private person," she concluded.

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To read more about Karrine Steffans marriage to Darius McCrary and to learn about her run-in with Essence magazine, read: 'Karrine Steffans: From Video Vixen to Real Housewife.'